A Glowing Ember Never Stilled

Tears rise to the surface today as I reflect on the life of a friend, gone at age 47…too soon for her sweet and gentle soul. Certainly, too soon for her parents, husband and three beautiful kiddos. Vanessa was one of my best high-school friends. She was a year older than I, but immediately took me under her wing. We were alike in so many ways, like sisters, and spent much time together as gymnasts, cheerleaders, and friends.

As I reflect on the time spent together, I remember her quiet leadership, supportive presence, and wonderful sense of humor.

We both went on to college, marriage, and had children, and did not reconnect. Why? As often happens, life gets busy. Spouses, children and career become the focus for women like us. Though this is not wrong, it is important to realize that friendships, the good ones, should not be forgotten or set aside. My tears today are not just for a lovely life gone, but for the regret. The remorse of not reaching out to my friend to connect before it was too late.

I imagine V and I would have reconnected as if no time was lost between us, sharing stories of love, loss, and motherhood. Our eldest daughters, both in college now, may have been friends. I would have been there for her as she endured illness and hugged her one last time. Instead, I am saying farewell to an angel, with a promise that she will live in my heart forever.

To my readers, do not take advantage of time, as you never know how much is left. Reach out to those you love and cherish the present. Friendship is one of the most blessed gifts we have in this life.

“You’ll never be forgotten, that simply cannot be. As long as I am living, I’ll carry you with me. Safely tucked within my heart your light will always shine; a glowing ember never stilled, throughout the end of time. No matter what the future brings, or what may lie ahead, I know that you will walk with me along the path I tread. So, rest my angel, be at peace and let your soul fly free. One day I’ll join your glorious flight for all eternity.”

– Unknown